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Servant Leadership via Good Will Hunting

April 21, 2009

Introduction

In 1997, Good Will Hunting, arrived to critical acclaim and provided the launching point for the movie stardom success of Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. Good Will Hunting is the compelling story of a young man, deemed a genius by all whom know him, as he journeys from being a troubled social deviant to actualizing his God-given abilities as he learns to find acceptance of self and to experience emotional intimacy in the context of his relationships. Having watch the film numerous times, I am always drawn in and inspired by the interactions between Will Hunting and Sean Maguire, played by Robin Williams, a state-mandated psychologist assigned to Will upon his being charged with assault. Mr. Maguire’s leading and interactions with Will provide an excellent onscreen model of servant leadership which can aid all aspiring servant leaders in identifying specific practices and strategies essential for servant leadership.

In this paper, I will examine servant leadership practices and strategies of Sean Maguire in his relationship with Will Hunting. I will focus on three particular stages of their relationship (initial interactions, establishing credibility, and pursuing potential growth) while reflecting upon course texts throughout.

INITIAL INTERACTIONS

Upon being bailed out of a potential prison sentence by an elitist and well-renowned math professor at MIT, Will is informed by the professor that the court has mandated that he see a psychologist for a set period of time along with his work with the professor. Frustrated that none of his academic colleagues will take on the case after Will has manipulated and humiliated them, the professor turns to Sean Maguire, his roommate from college with whom his relationship has experienced strife and distancing throughout the years as their professional and personal lives have taken different paths. During the initial meeting between Will and Sean, Will makes his best attempt to derail the session by insulting and negating Sean’s professional field as well as his personal life. Will continues by expounding upon one of Sean’s personal paintings and attempts to psychoanalyze him via his artwork. The scene reaches its climax as Will ascertains that perhaps Sean married the wrong woman and Sean grabs Will by the neck, pinning him against the wall, tensely uttering “if you ever disrespect my wife again, I will end you!”. As the professor enters Sean’s office after Will leaves, Sean agrees to continue seeing Will. This illustrated a powerful principle of servant leadership which Ramsey (2006) articulates by saying “the servant-leader’s deliberate choice is to serve others” (p. 3). A key aspect of servant leadership is choosing to put aside personal offense or hurt in effort to serve others. While Sean had every right to refuse to see Will again, he chose continuing meeting with him because he identified his position to serve Will in spite of his present feelings of hurt or inferiority.

As Will approaches Sean in his office for their second visit ready to sit in his chair, Sean utilized a rather unorthodox counseling method by taking Will to a bench in a nearby park. Sean confronts Will about his derogatory comments during their previous visit, sharing his experience of surviving his wife as she died from cancer. The pinnacle of their encounter occurs when Sean gracefully and compassionately says:

“You think I know the first thing about how hard your life has been, how you feel, who you are, because I read Oliver Twist? Does that encapsulate you? Personally… I don’t give a shit about all that, because you know what, I can’t learn anything from you, I can’t read in some fuckin’ book. Unless you want to talk about you, who you are. Then I’m fascinated. I’m in. But you don’t want to do that do you sport? You’re terrified of what you might say. Your move, chief.”

One of the clear practices we can learn from Sean’s actions was his ability to forgive Will for his critical and hurtful remarks. Lennick & Kiel (2008) note that “when I forgive you, I continue to recognize that you have flaws, but I do not define you completely in terms of your flaws” (p. 112). Servant leaders must realize they will be hurt by the words and actions of others throughout the process of leadership. Just as Sean saw what he could potentially learn from Will, servant leaders must not allow their emotions to be the singular driving force of their practices and strategies. Servant leaders must not only be willing to forgive, but willing to move forward in their relationships with constituents seeking future learnings, opportunities, and successes.

Another important servant leadership strategy exemplified in this scene in Sean’s desire to listen to Will and learn about his life, his experiences, and his thoughts. Greenleaf (1977) certainly saw the significance of leaders employing listening skills and the impact it had upon workers “because true listening builds strength in other people” (p. 31). In regards to listening, it is imperative to specify the distinction between seizing opportunities as they come as opposed to proactively seeking and organizing one’s schedule to intentionally encourage and provide space and time for listening.

ESTABLISHING CREDIBILITY

As Sean and Will continue to meet throughout the movie, Will begins to ask perusing questions about Sean’s life and marriage after a complete session of silence. One critical interaction occurred when Will asked Sean if he would ever remarry which Sean promptly responded, “my wife is dead.”. After pressing him with the question a second time, Will says “that way you could actually go through the rest of your life without ever really knowing anybody”, rehashing an assertion previously made by Sean towards Will. While this may seem to be an inconsequential exchange, it is interesting to note how Will responds to this exchange with a graceful spirit rather than contention as he had earlier in the film. There are many similar moments throughout their sessions where Sean continues to build credibility and rapport with Will through basic personal connections in their interactions. Kouzes & Posner (2003) acknowledge the merit of this process when they write “the credibility foundation is built brick by brick. And as each new fragment is secured, the basis on which we can erect the hopes of the future is gradually built” (p. 25). Servant leaders are more effective when they appreciate the foundation of credibility steadily established in present interactions in light of a future hope for the individual and the organization.

Another element of establishing credibility happens during Sean’s interactions with the professor. While the professor is consumed with the potential results Will may produce in the future, Sean is more concerned with the constructing the road to those results by allowing Will to find ownership in those pursuits as he continues to strengthen their relationship. Thompson (2000) corroborates the importance of this strategy by saying “relationships that are totally objective and valued for their utility are unlikely to give rise to the level of trust and commitment that empowerment entails” (p. 189). It is essential for servant leaders to avoid focusing on the past of an individual or solely on their potential results. Rather, servant leaders must consider both of these criteria, but more importantly focus on building the bridge between the two through relationships.

PURSUING POTENTIAL GROWTH

In perhaps the most critical scene in the movie, Sean holds Will’s file detailing his records of being physically abused throughout his childhood scattered amongst foster families. After Sean shares with him his own childhood experience of physical abuse, he faces Will repeating “it’s not your fault” until Will breaks down, sobbing, and hugging Sean. The following scene portrays their final session of the court mandate where Will shares with Sean his choice to accept a job at one of the organizations set up through the professor. After Will confirms his desire to pursue this path, Sean shares with him his own choice to “put his money back on the table and see what kind of cards he gets”.A great concept of servant leadership displayed throughout the movie which comes to fruition in this scene is the strengthening of others. Just as Sean allowed Will the space, relationship, and time to move forward with his own decision, servant leaders must strengthen others to the point where they make decisions which are owned. When people are allowed to make decisions based upon their own beliefs they have personal accountability for their decisions and achievements (Kouzes & Posner, 2002, p. 284). When servant leaders strengthen their constituents to the point of ownership, they do not just aid in their achievement, but they also pass on this specific paradigm of leadership.

It is all too common for leaders to become complacent in their positions either out of fear of failure or fear of being uncomfortable. Sean’s decision to move out amongst the world again shows his ability not just be a servant leader to others, but also to apply such concepts to his own life. Greenleaf (2003) writes that servant leaders must “be more creative than most, and creativity is largely discovery, a push into the uncharted and the unknown” (p. 51). Servant leaders must not be held captive by the fear of the unknown. Instead, they must venture into the unknown, seeking to learn more about their self, experiencing new techniques and ways, and wrestling with their encounters to continue to learn to build a bridge from the past to the present to the future.

CONCLUSION

This has been an enjoyable paper to write and it will serve as connection between a film I love and the calling of servant leadership. I love the rawness of the dialogue and interactions found in Good Will Hunting, as it provides a realistic portrayal of life which is messy and complicated where pain and confusion plentifully abound in need of healing and direction. The closing scene of the movie shows Will driving in his car west (presumably on his way to Skylar, his girlfriend) leading viewers to believe that he had found reconciliation not just with his talents and potential career, but also with his relationships and fear of intimacy. I always watch this scene to the end through the credits because it inspires me with the hope of being able to move beyond pain and confusion for all people. This hope is what exudes from the hearts of servant leaders.

REFERENCES

Greenleaf, R.K. (1977). Servant leadership: a journey into the nature of legitimate power and greatness. Mahwah, New Jersey: Paulist Press.

Greenleaf, R.K. (2003). The servant leader within: a transformative path. Mahwah, New Jersey: Paulist Press.

Kouzes, J.M. & Posner, B.Z. (2003). Credibility: How leaders gain and lose it, why people demand it. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

Kouzes, J.M. & Posner, B.Z. (2002). The leadership challenge. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

Lennick, D. & Kiel, F. (2008). Moral intelligence: enhancing business performance & leadership success. Upper Saddle River, New Jersey: Pearson.

Ramsey, M. (2006). Servant leadership and unconditional forgiveness: The lives of six south African perpetrators. The International Journal of Servant Leadership, 2(1), 87-113.

Thompson, C.M. (2000). The congruent life: following the inward path to fulfilling work and inspired leadership. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass

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The Past 40 Days

February 2, 2009

I’m tempted to say life is great, because I’m conditioned to a certain extent although I do my best to be a contrarian in my daily interactions with people around church.  However, most times if I’m not “doing great” it just sends people in overdrive of looking for an exit strategy.  Overall life isn’t bad, but hasn’t been the greatest.

  • Grad school is in push mode right now as a fight to find motivation in my research class…all masters program have the “research” course, but it is truly arbitrary in most cases…this will be my least favorite class when all is said and done.
  • Youth ministry is going okay.  We have been holding steady with our numbers, but am worried about some cliques affecting our modest group of 20 senior high students.  
  • I’m really frustrated with my church currently…we are really struggling with keeping focused and developing a vision for ministry to strive towards…we are getting trapped in being too busy with “stuff”.
  • Meredith’s 1st grade class is crazy…she has 27 kids and 20 are boys…we are officially in survival mode and February just began.
  • Meredith and I have had some really good time together this past month with our free time…we have been a happy couple!

Christmas break was very stressful.  I was reminded of what it is like to live with an alcoholic father with harsh words.  I can’t stand the way he puts down my mom, makes comments to my sisters about their appearance, and discredits any idea other than his own.  I feel horrible that my mom (who is kind and gentle to the core) has to endure this daily…hopefully the Lord has an amazing award for her.  Now that I work with teenage girls, I’m incredibly aware of the impact the words of men have upon them.  Needless to say, he and I didn’t get along very well.  The restoration process of a father/son relationship definitely regressed.  We haven’t spoken since December 30th.

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Bi-Annual Check-in

January 20, 2009

After an entire semester passed with minimal posting, here is the update.

We are still living in Yuma, AZ…still working as a DCE…Meredith is still a teacher.  Graduate school has been going very well.  I’m a week into my research class currently and pretty sure this will be my least appreciated class of the program…glad I’m taking it now and not at the end of the program.

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Mad Men Musings…

October 28, 2008

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Just watched the finale of Season 2 last night…here it goes.

  • Loved Peggy’s exchange with Pete as he breaks down…the development of her confidence throughout the show is incredible to watch.
  • Donald Draper is just the most fascinating character on television…he is constantly running away from his life to feel free…he does all the things most of us only think and dream about doing even though we know it isn’t right.
  • Betty’s sadness over other the notion that she has missed out on her chance to be a model is a tremendously subtle expression of wondering what might have been if…?
  • I’m interested to see what happens with Joan over the next season…you can’t help but root that she will stand up for herself and not allow herself to governed by the unofficial “rules” of the office…maybe Peggy can stir that up in Season 3?
  • The merger seems to be killing the creative aspect of the Sterling-Cooper, but I think this is a good thing, because the relationships of the characters are much more interesting than their work.

Anyone else ready for season 3?

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Graduate School is Killing This Blogging Prodigy

September 3, 2008

My blogging time has been significantly reduced by a combination of starting graduate school (which has sucked my time at home on the comp) and the increased workload of the school year (which has sucked my time at work on the comp..not that I would blog at work).

But mostly grad school is taking over my life, but it will not overcome my marriage…Meredith will pull the proverbial “stop payment” plug before it ever begins to interfere with “date night”.

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Initiating Blogosphere Re-Entry

August 11, 2008

I ended my prior installment by acknowledging my excursion from e-land into a reality that existed entirely of human beings in bodily form and those embedded in my cell phone’s contact list.  Honestly, I have really enjoyed this period as my relationships with folks in my community have flourished.  At the same time, I’ve lost touch with friends from college that I keep in touch with via blogging and Facebook.

After traveling for 4 weeks consisting of the end of June and the majority of July, it took some time to adjust back to living with a wife in an apartment.  Now that we have been back for 3 weeks, Meredith and I have readjusted to our existence as husband and wife.  We have had some great time together and a couple great day excursions.  She goes back to teaching on Wednesday and I will miss the joy of being able to eat lunch together most days.

Now my focus has been directed to 3 things: getting prepared for the fast-approaching year of youth ministry, getting prepared to start graduate school on September 2nd (and figuring our how to pay for it), and being sucked into the Olympics every evening.

Speaking of the Olympics, I’m going to have my thoughts from the evening broadcast included every day.  I flabbergasted that I am so engrossed and intrigued by the Olympics.  Never in my life have I been such a fan of the games…yet another sign of getting older…I still can’t believe I’m 27!!!

Olympic Musings

- Swimming is all about records…almost every final features a new Olympic or world record.  Perhaps they measured that pool in yards instead of meters.

- Michael Phelps eats alot!!!

- Phelps contingency of gold medals is impressive, but I’m not sure there is a more dominant US team than Misty May-Treanor and Kerri Walsh (and her black-taped shoulder) in beach volleyball.  They just annihilate everyone they face.  And it doesn’t hurt that they are easy on the eyes.

- Mary Carillo just revealed that there is a 7′9″ China-man and China is also home to the world’s largest bathroom.

- Move over football.  Men gymnists are the new athletic freaks!

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Vacation Update, Day 2

July 2, 2008

No cool ambient header today as we are on the road currently in San Francisco.  Yesterday we started out at 6:20am and ended up in Santa Cruz by around 5:00ish just in time for dinner.  I always have fond memories of that town as I spent the summer of 2002 working at camp there.  However, I was quickly reminded of the traffic.  With the many hills and land an highly coveted commodity, traffic is terrible along the Monterrey Bay coastline with roughly a few hundred thousand people spread across it.

After a stop by the O’Neill Surf Shop and a quick dinner at Pizza My Heart, we grabbed a coffee from Peet’s before heading to Mt. Cross.  Our friend Ellie works at the camp year-round and it was great to see her.  She was gracious enough to let us stay with her and it was truly a blessing to be there.  It was a tremendous trip down memory lane to walk around the camp that I still remember all the floor plans and layouts.  It was exciting to see the progress that had been made in the last 6 years and I was blessed with the opportunity to share God’s Word during first word this morning before leaving camp.

After breakfast, we went down to the Santa Cruz Boardwalk and Natural Bridges beach.  With more incredible memories invigorated, we started on our way to SFO to pick up my parents for our week together in San Francisco and wine country.  After wading through more traffic (the staple of the Bay Area), we finally made it to the airport and headed to The Chancellor Hotel in Union Square.  After a great lunch with some some cheeses, bread, and wine at Ferry Station, we visited all the neighborhoods we usually do when in San Francisco (Fisherman’s Wharf, Ghiradelli Square, Chinatown, North Beach, etc.) and headed back to the hotel for rest.

This evening we are going to eat at Kuleto’s for some good Italian this evening.  This is truly a great time with family and has already been an extremely relaxing vacation.  It’s good to know that we don’t go back till Monday!

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1 Week Down, 3 To Go…

June 28, 2008

In youth ministry, every trip has a certain appeal.  The Canada mission trip next week is going to be quite strenuous and equally rewarding.  NYG is exhausting and ridiculously expensive.  All overnighters are straight from hell.  And Junior High Camp in Colorado is FUN!!!

It’s bittersweet to be sitting on the floor in our living room (somewhat ridiculous in itself that I still don’t always use the furniture), but I’m not yet ready to get camp out of my system…hence waking up at my conditioned 6:00am to get a warm shower turned into blogging as the sun pours through the blinds.  Today, I miss Colorado.  I don’t walk out to a brisk sunrise over the evergreen and red rock covered mountains.  Instead, I’ve got a window with a bush and an oak tree.

The scenery is spectacular at the Circle K Ranch outside of Delores, Colorado where we have held our camp for the past 30 years.  In this serene valley which has non cellular reception, it’s easy to be aware of the God of the universe.  Like every year, there are certain themes that protrude and happenings that occur to make each year memorable.  Here’s the rundown:

  • “I wanna go home…I don’t wanna leave” syndrome – Homesickness seemed to be rampant among our incoming 7th grade girls through Tuesday.  They all wanted to go home and pulled a 180 by Thursday morning.  I learned a lot about their families this week.
  • Boundaries honored – This group of 19 was the most enjoyable group I have ever taken anywhere.  They respected the boundaries set and backed off when they crossed. 
  • Meredith the youth counselor - Against her strongest efforts, Meredith has become a youth leader.  The girls love her and always look to her for help, advice, and encouragement.  She is their number one!
  • “We want sleep”- Our kids didn’t just go to bed on time, they were begging to go to bed 30 minutes before lights out.  It gets even stranger when you consider they every bunkhouse in the entire camp followed suit.  Weird, huh?
  • Medics and Biffers - Any game that allows counselors to hit kids withsocks filled with flour is awesome!  It feels like a ridiculous “This is Sportscenter” commercial.  “Get up kid…you’re mom signed the waiver!”
  • God is always present - Kids praying, forgiving one another, and showing the grace of Christ is one of the greatest sights in all the world.  Just speechless!
  • Breakouts are good – Meredith did a breakout about her battles with anorexia and I spoke about pornography.  Combined with 8 others, breakout sessions were definitely a high point of learning for students as we discussed some very relevant and somewhat uncomfortable topics.
  • Counselors always have the most fun! – One of the reason I love this camp is so enjoyable is that I get to work alongside my friends for a week doing what we all love.  Ministry is even better when done alongside friends.
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3 Years In…

June 18, 2008

I’ve been putting off blogging this week as I have an overload of information to share and have way too much work that I need to accomplish before we leave for camp on Sunday and won’t return to my office till the end of July.  I’m trying really hard to realize that not everything will get done and it will be okay.  So this morning in my office, blogging is taking precedence over work for the next 35 minutes.

4 weeks ago I looked in my mailbox and opened a letter that contained a great source of joy and excitement.  It was 2 tickets to the US Open at Torrey Pines in La Jolla, California that Meredith had bought for our 3rd anniversary.  We went to the Saturday round and spent the early afternoon camped out at the green of the 4th and then moved to the 18th to watch the final players come through.  After a rather uneventful first part of the day, the ending couldn’t have been any more different.  Tiger nailed 2 eagles and a birdie on his final 5 holes, including one on the 18th where the crowd around us lost it because we knew we were witnessing something special.  We both had a fantastic time and it was incredible to be a part of a historic event and a performance that the sports world will never forget.

This is the greatness of my wife.  Celebrating our anniversary at a sporting event that didn’t really interest her that much initially.  When you are married, it’s really easy to complain and pick apart the other person because you see them for everything they are.  You know their habits, sayings, weaknesses, strengths, and most importantly their bathroom etiquette (don’t dismiss it…mucho importante!).  As a critical person, I can pretty much decimate anyone to their worse characteristic (it’s one of our more embarrassing family traits).  And when the honeymoon lives on only in scrapbooks, I sometimes struggle to remember the incredible gift God has given me in the form of my wife.

But it doesn’t take more than a few minutes of walking in the door after work to be reminded as I’m greeted with a hug and a kiss.  I’m reminded when eat dinner together at the table and when we go get coffee and sit outside talking until they lock the door.  I’m reminded when we lie motionless in bed with a calmness.  And I’m reminded by the pride I take in the words, “This is my wife, Meredith”.

I have a great live together with my wife.  I love her more and differently every day as I find out more about her.  I love watching her learn and continue to grow.  I love being with her, exploring new places, and trying new things.  We have a good life ahead of us and God will not disappoint as he is with us always.

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Grandness Straight Ahead

June 13, 2008

Bring it, summer!

I’m better prepared for summer this year than I ever before.  Youth trips planned…check.  Transportation for youth…check.  Personal vacation…double check.

I’m really excited for this summer.  We are taking our largest group ever to junior high camp and it’s just a great group of kids who love being together and having a great time.  We leave next Sunday and return 5 days later.  Many times we can learn a lot about the kids we work with by spending some time with their parents.  Well if this holds, true I’m really looking forward to working with this group considering nearly every parent I asked jumped at the chance to help drive…one who could because of a medical issue even offered to pay for gas!  There are good years ahead here.

3 days after our return to Yuma, we (Meredith and I) will be hitting the road.  We are going to Napa Valley for a friend’s wedding/vacation with parents with stops along the way to see two great friends from our past.  We will also get to visit the camp that I worked at for a summer during college.  It will be great to rekindle some old memories from the Santa Cruz area.  A trip to the Bay Area is always great…this is one of our favorite spots in the country.  There are so many different cultures, artists, and historical sites.  And most importantly, there is a plethora of fantastic food!  (Yeah, I’m a food snob)

Upon our second arrival back in Yuma in less than 2 weeks, we will turn around and depart the following morning for seperate destinations.  I’m headed to Washington on my way with a group of senior high students for our annual Canada Mission Trip.  Meredith is headed to St. Louis and eventually Chicago to see her family and her best friend since childhood.  Exactly 2 weeks later, we will rendezvous at no other than PHX Sky Harbor (baggage system from hell) Airport.

By that point it will be August 22nd and school is just a few weeks away!